At one time or another we have all experienced a setback, that unavoidable obstruction, that bump in the road. However what sets us all apart is how we deal with that ‘bump’! Do you totally flip-out, declaring everything all but lost, why even try, why bother?! Or do you take a step back, re-evaluate the situation and then carry on down a slightly different path?
At some point, whether at school, work or home we have had to contend with things that might slow us down or hinder our efforts to get where we want to be. We just need to remember that setbacks are only temporary and with time and thought there are usually ways around them.
The key is not to give up or quit.
The easy way out is to say “I tried but it didn’t work out”.
However wouldn’t it be far more rewarding to say “I tried, hit a few stumbling blocks along the way, but I got there in the end”!!
So, how do you manage or bounce back from a setback?
Firstly, be impartial. Take a step back and separate yourself from the situation so you can see it from a neutral perspective. Is it really the major setback you thought it was or can things be adjusted slightly to work around it?
Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. More often than not people are willing to give you advice or guidance or even lend a helping hand.
Re-evaluate your goals or outcomes. Were you realistic at the start? It’s hard to achieve goals that are not S.M.A.R.T. – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Timely. Reassess your objective with these in mind and be flexible as well.
Remain positive. Don’t allow any setback to label your endeavour a total disaster or yourself as a failure. Banish these negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones, focusing on all you have accomplished and achieved thus far.
Above all, persevere. Who said life was going to be easy? Without the hard times and setbacks we would not truly appreciate the good times and the feelings that come with success when we get where we want to be!
Do not ever concern yourself with how many setbacks that appear before you, these do not matter. It is however more important how many times you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back on track.
Remember, it is your ability to bounce back that will keep you on the path to success and fulfilment.